I am autistic, and founded an all-autistic-women led org called Autism Fits, specifically to address how, as you said, neuro divergent people are excluded from working society because of the pace set by movements like the girlboss one.
I mean, we are totally failing at gaining funding because we are utterly and hopelessly clueless about grant writing, but we are succeeding at doing it our own baby-stepped, slower, less stressful and anxiety-inducing pace. That's how it should be. Work is meant to support living, life is not meant to be all about work, stress, and hurting ourselves mentally, emotionally, and even physically since stress and lack of sleep can do real damage to our bodies and health.