I understand where you are coming from, but it is actually aimed at any parent who is not autistic, themselves. Even those who do well with their child.

Think about it, the term "autistic parent" singles out themselves and their child and sends the message that the child is abnormal in some way, pity them and/or the parent. That is not helpful in any way.

And if you aren't autistic, you aren't part of the autistic community. I did mention allyship, and those good parents are allies. But anything more than that hands the mic to them, instead of us. We should be the only ones speaking for us. There are enough of us who can effectively do so. There are many who mean well but just can't ever fully understand, because they aren't autistic, themselves. I will note, there is a difference between advocating for autistics, and advocating for their own child's needs to be met, however. I support the latter..the former, they need to let us handle. If that message alienates them, then they are not good allies, because a good ally would understand this and take a back seat, instead of trying to speak over us.

Think of it this way- if a white parent has a half black child, is that parent now part of the black community, and gets to speak for blacks? No. The child, yes. But not the parent.