The coach is awful, and this is why non-mental health professionals should have a limit on what they can do as far as coaching. What they said was harmful. I am autistic, and run an org, with 2 mental health professionals, teaching employers how to recognize neurodivergent traits and accommodate them. The coach is complete dismissing how social battery drain runs much deeper and harder in a neurodivergent person. I cannot guess if you are, or not, but if they were addressing someone who is, their comments would 1. cause a level of ostracization for the person, by calling them out that way, aka, it's bullying. 2. put more pressure on the person to forgo their medical needs for their mental difference for the sake of keeping other people comfortable, without any regard for the fact that a person who has stopped drinking should not be around alcohol in order to help them stay sober and not be tempted, and without regard to the individual's comfort, "eff you, keep us comfortable at your own expense" is a horrible message and makes a person feel a need to put more strain on themself, making their work life even more miserable than most are expected to tolerate. which makes this number 3. Ableism. Which is gross. Shame on the company for hiring an ignoramus pushing harmful ideas on the staff.

Sincericide is not a real thing. Ableism that is harmful to neurodivergents who are known to be more straightforward and honest, is a thing. Don't give this discrimination a cute name and make it into another thing employers and peers use to further hurt our employability. Autistics, alone, are already at an 85% unemployment rate, cos of discriminatory intolerance like this.